Girlfriend calls out boyfriend for continue to share his Netflix with ex-girlfriend, sees it as a sign that he hasn't moved on

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May 18, 2026 10:00 AM EDT

Is sharing your Netflix password with an ex a sign that you're not over them?

In this day and age, we could all benefit from a little resource-sharing. It's tough out there, and the more we can do for each other, the better. If that means sharing access to streaming services, then so be it. It's a victimless crime. We've all done it. It's an easy way to make life a little easier for everyone involved. It's a condition of modern life, and one that most of us have gotten used to embracing. But what if it's also a way that you stay attached to people whom you perhaps shouldn't? We've all done that at one time or another- used a certain thing to stay attached to someone. Maybe you keep their sweater, half-hoping that they'll come back for it one day. We all have our ways of staying connected. Some of this is harmless, but some of it can be damaging, especially to our current relationships. If we're stirring up jealousy in our relationships, it's probably time to interrogate why and what we can do about it. That's what was happening in this situation, where a woman in a relationship started to get jealous of her boyfriend's ex-girlfriend. She thought that he was trying to stay attached to her through their shared Netflix, but he saw it as a happenstance. But you have to take your partner's feelings seriously, and that's exactly what he tried to do. 

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  • Am I in the wrong for not changing my Netflix account after finishing a relationship?

    So I ended a relationship about a year ago, and we used to share some streaming accounts me, my ex and her family I never kicked them out of the account out of laziness and simply because it wasn't a problem, so I just never care
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  • Now my current girlfriend notice that and I told her the truth and she obviously took it as a sign that I hadn't moved on The truth is I just didn't think much about it (it's probably not my ex using it but one of her sisters), but she is ped. I apologized and realize it was a mistake, but she is not taking well
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  • I've now changed the password but damage is done. AITAH? Edit: I got it mixed, it's actually an HBO account. And I'm not in the US. I'm saying this because some people wonder why I can still share a Netflix, idk if HBO has other policies
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  • totallytotoro I don't think youre an AH for it but it is a bit weird... I get your GF issue but it does sound like perhaps she's made a mountain out of a molehill if she still isn't happy after you've discussed and then sorted the issue
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  • But commenters weren't sure whether or not her jealousy was coming from a valid place. Just because our feelings are valid doesn't mean that our worst fears need to be indulged. Sometimes we need to be put in our place and told that we're being crazy. In kinder terms, of course, but it stands. That's what was happening here, in the eyes of some. It's tough to know whether or not your jealousy is justified, and in this case, it was hard to define. Keep reading to see what you think about it. 

  • Commenters gave their takes on the situation.

    Tight_Steak_232 There is no "damage". You didn't have a problem, and you have the easiest way to prove it to her. "I thought so little of them I didn't even check if they were using it." You can tell her she doesn't need to invent issues, because relationships have plenty hiccups based on real issues.
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  • And if she's so jealous that your failing to change your netflix password is troubling. her, you might want to reconsider the relationship altogether. MAJOR red flag.
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  • Girl-From-The-Wood No girl wants to see your exes name up on the screen when she's trying to log in to watch something.
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  • CatJarmansPants When you say you've apologised, what is it you think you've done, and why do you think you need to apologise for it?
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  • Oh no, Disney and Netflix is half the price it might otherwise be - shocking betrayal, it's like I've been caught balls deep in your sister....
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  • writingmmromance2 It's not that big of a deal and your girlfriend is overreacting. It's a Netflix account. This is a sign of what your future will be like. I'd treat it as the red flag it is...her red flag not yours.
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  • shoulda-known-better I still share YouTube with my ex..... He pays for YouTube and I give him our Netflix...... I am married now and my hubby doesn't care still saves us 10 bucks a month lol
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  • AudgeDean NTA. If you were really close to her family, they might reach out and ask for the password.. how is she going to handle that? Not quite the same thing, but I still have an profile for my friend who passed away 4 years ago. It would take more effort for me to delete than just ignore it!
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  • Cybermagetx Nta. They use your netflix. Not like yall share talk. Your gf is too immature for an adult realtionship.
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  • Honey_Broad NTA. I do this all the time. I don't even know how many people are on my HBO account.
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  • Twenty TwoEighty Eight NTA. I don't know how old you are, but your current gf is clearly very emotionally immature. She's feeling insecure and using anything to justify her feelings.
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  • Instead of talking to you like a mature adult, she latched onto this to make an argument out of nothing. Take a close look at everything else in your relationship and decide if this is something you want to deal with long term.
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  • I get it, I had major problems with things like this when I was younger, but I wasn't emotionally mature enough for a committed relationship and it was a problem. She needs to work on herself and you need to decide if being with her is even healthy for either of you.
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  • oblique_obfuscator the ex is gunna have to watch Euphoria on Tiktok like the rest of us poor people
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  • Pants Pants Shorts Ugh. It's your account, you can do what you want with it. You clearly hold no ill will towards your ex or her family, and you didn't care if they used your account rather than funnelling more money into Netflix's pockets. I see no problem here.
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  • I also see no problem with your new girlfriend asking you to remove them. But she's doing more than that. There is no need for her to be this angry and upset with you about this. That's kind of a problem.
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  • Unsettled_addendum NTAH seriously, it's not that deep. Even if it was your ex still using it, the only time it would be an issue is if you only had like a 2 screen limit and your current gf kept getting messages that she couldn't watch something or whatever.
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  • If you already changed it, just let her chill and hopefully it blows over. If she stays p ed, then you might need to consider she's got some major insecurities.
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